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The 3 D’s of Bystander Intervention

Distract: Anything that distracts someone enough to discontinue the abusive behavior.

  • Spill a drink
  • Ask the abuser for directions
  • Ask the victim to assist with a task
  • Tell the abuser their car is being towed


Delegate: If you do not feel comfortable or safe intervening, delegate the intervention to someone else.

  • Tell a trusted professor
  • Let a bouncer know about the abuse
  • Ask the host of the party to intervene


Direct: Directly address the abuse.  You can either confront the potential victim or the person you think is about to abuse.

  • Ask the victim if they are OK
  • Tell the abuser it isn’t cool to talk to someone like that



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